You Are Not Alone:An Upbringing Shaped by Alcohol Problems

(Danish title: “Du er ikke alene: en opvækst med alkoholproblemer”) Now in its third edition.

A child who grows up in a family in which alcohol abuse is part of daily life can suffer serious consequences. How is a child supposed to navigate in a world of pressure, conflict and uncertainty? And later on, how does someone who was never allowed to live as a child handle life as an adult?

If you were one of those children, You Are Not Alone was written for you. It offers the help you should have received long ago.

“Those of us who grew up in homes dominated by the dark power of alcoholism make up the category called ‘adult children of alcoholics.’” And while our backgrounds are not identical, there are clearly common elements that will resurface later in all our lives as debilitating psychic forces.”—Michael Falch, from the book’s preface.

A child who grows up in a context shaped by alcohol abuse is neither seen, heard, nor given the care needed to become a whole person…

You may have your own family now, and even a stellar career, but baggage from your childhood can weigh so heavily on you that your quality of life is compromised. You may struggle with your sense of self, your self-esteem, and with a distrust of other people and even your own feelings.

This book can help you believe in yourself, so you can create a good, secure life, develop your self-esteem, and learn to set healthy boundaries, while improving your self-care and your general accountability to yourself. It also provides guidance on how to handle your family of origin, and how to find comfort in your intimate relationships.

Call upon it as a resource in freeing yourself from the shadows of the past and believing in the future again.


Throughout the book, others share experiences from their own childhood and journey in breaking free to claim a full, rewarding life.

“The way he opened the door after a stressful day was the first clue, and I could tell from the sound of his footsteps when something was wrong again. First, he’d open the cupboard and take out two glasses—a tumbler and a shot glass. One was for beer, the other was for liquor. Those two drinks would quickly turn to several, and his mood would change; he’d become either more relaxed or more angry. In that unsettling atmosphere, the world could turn upside down at any moment.”—Mona